Relationships ruined by ED

[Flavio]

Has ED ever ruined a relationship of yours? I don't want to get too sentimental here, but it happened to me once.

Last year, I met a terrific woman and, even though I'm not the marrying type, I tried a stable relationship. Our first time was terrific and she was really impressed with my performance in bed - of course, I didn't tell her I was taking Cialis and yohimbe at the time.

The second time was not so good, though. I was able to get an excellent erection but, again, the anxiety curse got in the way and I lost it just before penetration. (I wasn't taking VIGAMED at the time, though) This really upset me and made me even more anxious. So much so, that I avoided any further sexual contact with her and ended the relationship.

She was devastated and probably thinks I'm a creep. I'm not a creep but my performance anxiety was driving me nuts. Even though I liked her, I had to end that relationship and when I did, it was a huge relief.

Today, things are much different. I'm less anxious, maybe a bit more 'mature' and I would love to get back to her but she's still bitter about the whole thing.

[Caravan]

This F-ing curse is why I've been single for a year and... wow, almost 2 years.

I'm afraid of letting someone down. I know it's all in my head. It really is. I'm paranoid that if I meet an awesome girl, she'll ditch me because of my ED and THAT would hurt me pretty bad.

I'm really hoping that Viagra will help me out here. I've tried everything else. I need to just beat it out of my head.

I figure that once I have a few "good nights" with a few different women I'll be cured from this. I have a chance tomorrow, but I might not have Viagra by then, we'll see (getting it from someone I know, depends if he can get it).

Usually having a few drinks helps too. By a few I mean, 3-4. I'm not a very big person, but I guess I just drink til I stop caring about it and then go for it. It's worked for me a couple times. It was the sloppiest, most unproductive sex ever, and no I didn't keep it hard the whole time (I HATE condoms, even the ultra thin ones, can't feel anything), but I had it hard for 10 minutes?

Last girl I was "seeing" put up with it. We saw each other for about 5 months, and even then I still wasn't comfortable with myself enough to get it hard each and every time. Maybe 1/3 of the time I was able to penetrate and keep going. But she was also one of the very insecure type and maybe she put up with it because of that? Who knows.

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[Flavio]

[...] I have a chance tomorrow, but I might not have Viagra by then, we'll see (getting it from someone I know, depends if he can get it).
[...]

That's the great thing about living in Portugal: you can get all sort of brand drugs (incl. antidepressants, ED drugs) here without a prescription. Pharmacies just don't care, competition is fierce and all they want is to make money.

[TheGreatGatsby]

I've been divorced for just under two years now. It wouldn't be fair to say my ED problems are solely responsible, I mean I'm taking personal responsibility for the break-up too. You've got too! But it definitely was a factor in the whole thing. Then again, the fact I couldn't open up about it only made the situation worse and before you know it you get into a vicious cycle...

I've had a few casual relationships since then, a few with some amazing women. But my guard is definitely up because of my 'problem'.

So, yeah, I'd say it definitely contributed to the breakdown of many of my relationships.

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[davee76]

I'd say fear of disappointing that special gal definitely keeps me from trying for dates as often as I did before. So I'd say it has definitely cost me potential relationships...