ED only in situations with 3+ people

[kaithel]

Hi folks,

I'm a 41-year old man. I've been having ed problems on and off for a while. I apparently have low testosterone, and have been using Androgel for that. I've also tried, Viagra, and it works like a CHARM pretty much every time.

Here's the thing: I'm a very sexually open person, and I've recently experimented with a few threesomes and foursomes. In each of those cases, despite using the Viagra, I was unable to get an erection. There's no doubt, I was tremendously nervous and worried about it going into the experience. In each case, I later on spent time alone with my partner 1-on-1, and was able to maintain an erection for a long time. So, the problem is extremely specific to that 3+ experimenting situation.

The thing is, I really enjoyed it and want to keep doing it, but of course, it would be a million times more fun if I could get/maintain an erection.

Does anyone have any suggestions for things I could try? I tried doubling the dose of Viagra (I normally only need half a pill), but no dice. I tried a glass of wine to "loosen up," and that didn't make a difference. I'd love to find a "magic bullet" that just makes it WORK like Viagra seems to do in one-on-one scenarios, but I realize that may not happen.

Thoughts?

~k

[hashphish]

Did you eat a full meal when taking the pill? I ate a boat load of buffalo wings and fries and then took a levitra and it did not work, it always worked before.

[Ryan.c19]

Hi kaithel,

Since the physical ability to get and maintain an erection isn't the problem (since you have no problems 1 on 1 with your partner) it sounds to me that the situation is caused by the nervousness and worry you had going into the situation.

This has happened to me more times than I care to admit.

What I've noticed in that the emotions actually impact physical performance. If you can diminish the anxiety, nervousness and jitters then you will notice an increase in performance.

The question then is, how do you diminish the anxiety, nerves and jitters?

The only way I've been able to do this is by changing the thoughts running through your mind going into, and during the anxiety provoking situation. Instead of thinking thoughts like:

"Am I going to be able to perform?"

"What if I lose my erection again?"

"Are these people going to think less of me if I don't perform?"

Try thinking instead:

"This is awesome, even if things don't go perfectly I'm still going to have fun"

"I know that physically I'm fine."

"If I can avoid thinking negatively about my past performance, I will be able to maintain an erection."

The key is avoiding negative thoughts about yourself, and instead filling your mind with nice, positive, happy and healthy thoughts.

Once you get this down pat there is nothing stopping you! Take it from me as I have gone through the exact same process.

Hope that helps and good luck!