ED Nerves Getting the Best of Me

[JoeC]

Hiall, first i want to say thank you for having a forum such as this. It's a relief to know that other men are going through the same problems...i felt as if i was alone on this and never admitted it to anyone. Just to give you some background...

I'm 28 and in relatively good shape and don't drink/smoke/drugs (never really did in the past either). I had a girlfriend in college and never had any sort of sexual problems throughout my relationship with her. I could almost instantly get it up when i knew it was about time to get the engine running.

We broke up after 5 years and it was pretty bad. At the time was overweight and not taking care of myself so my self-esteem was way down. It's been 5-6 years since our breakup and i have yet to be with another woman. I've been in several situations where i had ED and couldn't get up and others i just avoided due to the embarrassment. Really crappy cycle to be in since i almost automatically start thinking of ED once i know the situation might lead to sex/four play.

Mind you, i have seen the ex on an off during the course of the 5-6 years and could easily perform with no problems (i know i know, bad idea but i knew i could get laid without worrying about performance). It's been a year and i totally stopped since i figured it wasn't helping with my problem...

I believe my problem is primarily psychological (performance anxiety?) but i'd like to hear stories from others that have had similar situations. I do seem to have a sense of minor anxiety coming into play when i know things might happen. I plan on seeing a urologist soon since i'm tired of not being able to move forward with my life. Anything you can share would be great.

Thank you all

Joe

[Flavio]

Your post is not very clear, JoeC. Are you in a relationship right now? Do you still have erection problems? And if so, are they persistent? It's perfectly normal to fail every now and then, nobody's infallible and that's not ED. ED is the persistent inability to attain or maintain an erection.

Like I said to madison97f, there are always two essential steps to be taken in these cases: 1) go see a urologist + 2) do a lot of research on this subject.

I also suffered from sexual performance anxiety for many years. I was able to get an erection but I couldn't penetrate. There's even a technical name for that: coital anxiety.

This problem haunted me for many years, in fact my entire youth. I never even considered this a medical condition and that was my mistake. Sexual performance anxiety is indeed a medical problem and a doctor (urologist) will be able to help you. Moreover it is easily treatable.

Believe me, I'm 34 and today my sex life is great. Sex (penetration) no longer scares me. And if I can do it, so can you.

Good luck and keep us posted.