....aaaand I'm back.

[Caravan]

Hi all. Been a few months. Nothing new here until recently.

Things were going great. I met a cool girl a few weeks ago. We've been hanging out a lot, kinda going through the motions. I had a couple Viagra that I acquired from... somewhere I probably shouldn't say on a forum. Anyway, I took one about a few hours before I saw her. I knew what to expect, head flushed with blood (almost gave me a tiny headache but no big deal), etc. We were doing stuff and I had an erection when we were kissing like I usually did.

But, again, the evil demon in my head came back and I lost it. I don't think she realized what was going on. I stopped what we were doing because I was pretty sure we weren't going to be able to have sex anyway.

So, this sucks.

I don't even know what to do here. I have some Cialis to try, but if 100mg Viagra didn't work then Cialis probably won't either. I've been to the BMG. I know it's nothing physically wrong with me. I'm 23 freakin' years old. I'm confident in everything I do, except this, and here I have a problem. I can talk all the game I want to girls but if I can never perform then what's the point?

This is the most embarrassing thing on earth.

[Flavio]

[...] I have some Cialis to try, but if 100mg Viagra didn't work then Cialis probably won't either. I've been to the BMG. I know it's nothing physically wrong with me. [...]

Welcome back, Caravan.

Two suggestions:

a) Reactions to these drugs vary a lot, so I suggest you try Cialis.

b) Viagra is very effective but only acts locally. If your case is related to anxiety, Viagra alone may not be enough. I suggest you add VIGAMED (oral phentolamine) to your regimen. VIGAMED shuts down the part of the nervous system that inhibits erections and may be perfect for cases like ours.

[Caravan]

Thanks for the reply, Flavio. Here's the rest of my story.

Anyway, I met up with said girl again two nights ago. I made up a bullsh** story about some medication I'm taking that hinders my ability to get an erection. I use that line sometimes. The girl was so cool about it, she didn't care at all. I told her that sometimes my stuff works and sometimes it doesn't. That was totally fine with her, she understood and told me that sex was a big deal to her and not taken lightly (yet she's had a few one night stands? Women )

That night we never ended up having sex but we did fool around a bit, in which I had no problem getting and keeping an erection and I took no Viagra/Cialis.

Yesterday, however, I took a Cialis early in the day just because I knew I'd be seeing her again that night. We hung out and ended up having sex. It was glorious. No problems whatsoever, the thought of "oh no, am I going to be able to get it up?" barely crossed my mind, and I focused on pleasing her and I certainly did that.

She's not one of the classic attractive girls, but still beautiful in my book, and was kind of reserved until we started "doing stuff". Maybe I felt I had the upper hand and it was a confidence booster.

Did Cialis help? Likely not.

Sometimes, it's all about the girl, I guess. I'm glad that I seem to be over this, at least with this girl.

[art88]

Caravan,

I hear were you are coming from. The exact same thing happens to me. If I start getting worried about my erections before even getting started, everything goes downhill from there. Viagra has not worked that well for me but just like you, Cialis has.

My doctor prescribed an interesting way of taking cialis. I am going to write a nice detailed post about it. To sum it up for you guys real quick, he asked me to split one Cialis pill in 8 pieces (a Cialis 20mg), he then told me to take one piece every 2 days until I finished the 8 pieces, well it worked and my erections are great every day. I can totally feel when I forget to take one as well.

I will post a new thread about this asap..

[Caravan]

What the hell, man.

Bad times last night. Same girl, no erection. It was in my head all day, "I'm going to see her tonight, cr@p, is it going to work?".

In order to prevent any of this from happening, I took:

Valerian
St. John's Wort
Cialis

and I also drank 3 beers to "take the edge off".


F this, I'm setting up an appointment with a urologist today. I'm really, really sick of this.

It sucks because I feel like I'm letting her down. She's a good girl and I don't want to lose her.

[Caravan]

fast forward: I've had no problems getting and maintaining an erection with this girl. It's just all in my head.

Cialis and Viagra do not help, confirmed.

I've been taking Valerian, not sure if that helps or not but it does seem to keep my mood up. Weird because I don't trust "natural" stuff.

[Nemo]

Glad it's working for you man. One thing though - you said at one point you had three beers on top of Valerian, Cialis, etc. Alcohol can be a real erection killer, so I'd cut that out of the mix. Three beers could easily kill an erection - I think they would for me.

[Eagle23]

I agree that is has to be the most embarrassing thing on earth. I am nineteen going through something similar - and I've found things that seem to work but they are never 100% and it's frustrating. Being so young, I hate having to take some herbal pill 2hrs before I -think- im going to have sex. Totally kills the whole spontaneous aspect =/ .. I hope you find something that works out for you Caravan becasue I know how frustrating it can be especially at such a young age.