Hello, and question.

[Galen]

I seem to be having some pychological ED problems with new ladies. Performance anxiety or condom ED?, both in my head.

No problems at all with porn, or with long term Girlfriend. Get good long term morning wood.

Mid forties.

But, new ladies seems to only get 80-90% then lost after a short time.

At first I thought Levitra may be a good idea. But now reading here it seems maybe something like Vigamed may be a better choice, or a combination.

I think I would prefer the faster and shorter life of Levitra over Cialis for my situation.

Sorry about the graphics, I believe it is fine here?

Thanks For any suggestions, I still plan on seeing my doctor, but that may take longer then I want to wait...

[Flavio]

Hi Galen, thanks for posting this.

I'm not a doctor but I suggest you first try to overcome this without meds. ED meds are effective and safe but they should not be taken recreationally. They're prescription drugs, not M&Ms.

Sexual performance anxiety is extremely common but it is easily treatable. Some tips that may be helpful:

- Condoms are a problem for everyone. Putting a condom is always an awkward, unnatural moment and it's only natural that many men lose their erection under those circumstances. Just relax and try not to think about it too much.

- I used to have the same problem and I came up with a very simple solution: I simply ask my partner to put the condom on me while I focus my attention on something else (e.g. kiss her, make oral sex). Problem solved!

- Try to find a sexual position that you're more comfortable with. I prefer when the woman comes on top of me, it makes me much less nervous.

- If possible, a warm bath/shower before sex can do wonders for your performance. It will relax you and it will also dilate your blood vessels and improve erections.

- Sex is all about relaxation. Try to relax or have a nap before sex. If your day was too busy or stressful, it's probably not a good idea to have sex in the evening. Adrenaline is an erection killer.

- Do some research and try to learn more about sexual performance anxiety. Read books, talk to experts, search the Internet. The more you know about these problems, the less stressful they will be.

If your problem persists, oral meds may be a solution. PDE-5 inhibitors (Viagra, Cialis, Levitra) are the most popular. VIGAMED (oral phentolamine) is also very effective. VIGAMED (formerly known as Vasomax) is not a PDE-5 inhibitor, it is an entirely new ED treatment. There are many studies that show the safety and efficacy of VIGAMED. You should take it on demand (30 minutes before sex) and results are immediate.

VIGAMED is not available in the US, but it is a licensed ED treatment in South America and you can order it online:

vasomaxclinic.com

propecia-proscar.com

I've been taking a combination of VIGAMED and CIALIS and I'm very happy with the results.

Again, always consult your doctor before you decide to try any treatment.

I hope this helps. Good luck!

[KUser]

I found this YouTube video very reassuring, if i am allowed to link to such things?
YouTube - Erection Problems

Concentrate on pleasuring her, and you'll stop worrying about yourself. The entire sex act doesn't have to be about your dick being hard and in her pussy, if you feel like you're losing wood or not hard enough, dont even bother trying, just go down on her and pleasure her while you learn to chill out.

[Flavio]

Wonderful video KUser, thanks for posting it.

Kara Sutra is probably one of the few women that know how men really work in bed.

[Galen]

Thanks for the sound advice.

I don't feel nervous actually almost too calm. But it is all mental, not sure if it is just the condom or the whole situation. So was looking for a silver bullet to do a quick fix. It is difficult to work with new women when your body has become so attuned to just one.

I have read a lot of Flavio post and probably need to reread many to get the fine points of what Vigamed does. So many different chemicals/hormones? being released controlling the whole process and which ones to assist and which ones to block.

Cheers

[risingsun]

Cuddling, kissing, masturbation, long walks and talks, massage and oral and manual stimulation all contribute to sexual expression and intimacy. Don't forget about the smaller things that help set the mood and relieve any tention.