Sex drive not there.

[Caravan]

Hi again. Finally taking steps to cure myself of this ED curse I have. I've got one more question for you guys. Take it for what it's worth.

For the past year or so I've had not much of a sex drive (unless I'm mildly inebriated - other than that it's been few and far between). I contribute this to my ED and since I think my mind "gave up" on sex drive. Deep in my mind of course there's still a desire but it's just not surfacing.

I don't wake up with morning erections and I don't typically get them throughout the day. Is that part of the no sex drive or a separate issue?

What steps have you guys taken to re-gain this?


Again, I can't thank you guys enough for your informative replies. Looks like I'll be getting viagra later in the month.

Mark

[buffalobil]

I have had ED problems since the early 1970’s. Of course back then it was called impotence and there was very little known about it. There no treatments except for Sensate Focus exercises which were controversial to say the least. I did try them with moderate success.

My ED is psychogenic resulting from some early bad experiences. The ED caused me much worry and anxiety about sexual encounters. Situations creating anxiety, worry and failure are not those most would seek out and so it was true of me. As a result of such negative reinforcement my libido gradually and understandably slipped away to nil.

About ten years ago I grew to miss the intimacy present in sexual encounters so much that I decided to take a different tack and began studying classic Tantric techniques. These place primary importance on satisfying the women, most of which do not involve intercourse. To my pleasant surprise most women were unconcerned about my ED after experiencing intense multiple orgasms. lol. Once the failure aspect of sex was removed (if not the performance aspect), I found my libido returned in full force.

Two years ago I decided to go the last mile and investigated the current pharmacological agents available. I tried Viagra, Cialis and Levitra. Levitra worked the best for me but still only gave me about 75% of a full erection, not enough for penetration. I am convinced that I now have a vascular component to my ED resulting from High Cholesterol, Smoking and a dubious lifestyle.

Nine months ago I began experimenting with a combination of Levitra and Bremelanotide. This gave me the results I had been searching for. In addition to easy and often spontaneous erections, the Bremelanotide resulted in a libido response similar to what I had as a 14 year old. There are some unpleasant side effects to both of these medications however and I am exploring Vigamed, Cabergoline, Yohimbine and several other ideas Flavio has surfaced.

You are wise to work on this and nip it in the beginning. I think one of the three (Viagra, Cialis and Levitra) will give you the confidence/performance boost you need. While I can’t say for certain, I suspect once you take the “F” out of failure and apply it to other activities, you will eventually find your libido is back, alive and intact. I noticed you had some reticence to go to your local pharmacy. You might use the ruse I did when I first started getting back in the game. I would tell potential partners that I had ED that resulted from the BP medication I was taking. I would tell them I could stop taking it but there was a risk to that and I had learned many ways to “compensate”. This took all of the pressure off them, lowered expectations and led to a very very nice time.

In any case don’t give up. If a beat up haggard old guy in his late fifties can find a way out, you will too. . These are marvelous times and the information flow and sense of community is wonderful. Good luck to you and if I can help in any way just ask.

[Flavio]

Great topic, Caravan.

My erections and orgasms are great but my sex drive is still a problem. I'm 32 y.o., so my libido is not what it used to be. I tried a few things (cabergoline, yohimbe, trazodone) but results were disappointing.

A couple of thoughts on this:

a) In my case at least, sex drive seems to be related to mood fluctuations and disorders. Depression messes up with the entire chemistry of your body: appetite, energy and sex drive are seriously affected. I'm not an expert but this seems to be related to neurotransmitters levels in your brain. Again, because Zoraxel acts directly on these neurotransmitters, it improves not only erections but also libido and orgasms.

b) To me, the safest way to improve your sex drive is physical exercise. This naturally increases testosterone levels and improves your mood. I swim 5 km every week and everytime I come out of the pool my libido is sky high.

[Caravan]

thank you guys.

On the topic of exercise: Do you think it matters whether it's cardio or weightlifting? I never bothered with cardio because I never really needed it. I typically use the free weights at the gym and stay an hour or so.

[Willie]

I always encourage young guys our age to go see a sexual medicine urologist to find out whether perineal trauma (grundle area) caused damaged to the penile arteries that go through that area and then into the penis, because that's what happened to me.

[ydrohoos]

thank you guys.

On the topic of exercise: Do you think it matters whether it's cardio or weightlifting? I never bothered with cardio because I never really needed it. I typically use the free weights at the gym and stay an hour or so.

Both cardio and weight training are good.
If you are looking for a testosterone boost, which may in turn raise your sex drive, perhaps compound exercises on weights are better. Stick to relatively few reps and quite heavy loads. There are numerous studies available in the web that support this argument and it is generaly considered a fact.

The cardio is also very good; there is no doubt. For me cardio work (moderate as well as intence) produces a good feeling after training more so than pure weights training does. I get some sort of natural high which is definitely very good for sex drive. I very often feel quite upbeat and quite horny when i leave the gym after a kick boxing session for example.

[Caravan]

Excellent. I'm working on getting my YMCA membership back. I'll certainly be frequenting the weight room in there in the fall.

I also quit smoking. Been a whole week now. I feel GREAT!

[Bob_R]

I'm 64. At 55 my ability to produce testosterone suddenly stopped. As in, one day I could have multiple ejaculations, and the next I couldn't.

Went to my doctor for blood workup. Said: "Yep, you're barely registering."

Been using AndroGel ever since. (Note: be very careful with the dosage. Too much, and you become really aggressive, both sexually and in your everyday life.)

OK, why am I mentioning this.

Viagra/Cialis/etc. only affect the hardness of your erection, they have nothing to do either with your interest in sex or in your ability to "reload" after ejaculating. AndroGel addresses both issues because it's a hormone.

In my experience, you have to learn to manage both your testosterone level AND your hardness. By the way, taking the hormone also helps to make you hard.

Hope this helps

Bob

[Caravan]

Here's how it goes. This is issue is all in my head, I swear. Ugh.

Went up to visit a few friends a few hours away. Me and a girl get to talking. We knew we both wanted to hook up, but the situation just wasn't right (wrong place & time). She texts me after I leave "next time I see you, its yours if you want it". Something like that. Erection. Thought about it again a little later in the day. Erection. Went to bed and woke up. Erection. Saw a good looking girl at the mall. Erection.

Then after the initial "buzz" wore off I'm down to what I'm used to being at. No erections, ever, unless I'm stimulating myself.

I need to figure out how to get in that state and stay there.

[Flavio]

Here's how it goes. This is issue is all in my head, I swear. Ugh.

Went up to visit a few friends a few hours away. Me and a girl get to talking. We knew we both wanted to hook up, but the situation just wasn't right (wrong place & time). She texts me after I leave "next time I see you, its yours if you want it". Something like that. Erection. Thought about it again a little later in the day. Erection. Went to bed and woke up. Erection. Saw a good looking girl at the mall. Erection.

Then after the initial "buzz" wore off I'm down to what I'm used to being at. No erections, ever, unless I'm stimulating myself.

I need to figure out how to get in that state and stay there.

Well, you don't have to be 'in the mood' all the time. Whenever I end a relationship or go through professional problems and feel depressed about it, I have to give it a week or two (or more) before I can get my erections back.

Even if it's 'just in the head', there are solutions available. There are drugs that act directly in the brain to improve libido and erections and apomorphine is one of those. I can't wait for December to try the AMI apomorphine nasal spray, I'm convinced it will be the perfect solution for me.