Erections: a very simple tip

[Flavio]

Many men get too anxious just before penetration and lose their erection. This is precisely my problem: I can always attain a strong erection and maintain it but when the time comes to penetrate, I lose it.

Well, a friend of mine gave me a very simple tip that could be helpful: simply hold the base of the penis with your fingers (i.e. create a 'natural' penis ring with your hand) so that blood doesn't leave the shaft and it stays hard enough for penetration. Once the penis is already in there, it remains hard.

I've never tried this, but it makes sense.

Any other ideas?

[Willie]

I'll have to give that a shot, man. Unfortunately, I'm not sexually active right now. Last time I had sex was when I was home on vacation from work, thousands of miles away.

I also have issues staying hard when it comes time to put on the condom. Does that ever happen to you, or it is usually when the time comes to penetrate?

[fersim]

Willie there is where my problem is. Once I slip on the condom I am already soft. What I have to do is tear open the condom a few hours before having sex because if I do not I will spend 30 seconds trying to rip it open and by the time I am done I am soft as a feather..

[Flavio]

I'll have to give that a shot, man. Unfortunately, I'm not sexually active right now. Last time I had sex was when I was home on vacation from work, thousands of miles away.

I also have issues staying hard when it comes time to put on the condom. Does that ever happen to you, or it is usually when the time comes to penetrate?

Putting on a condom is a problem for everyone, I guess: it's always an awkward, unnatural moment.

A penis ring might be useful in these cases: it allows you to remain hard even if there's no sexual stimulation. I don't use cock rings anymore because they're a bit uncomfortable and I think I don't need them anymore, but they do work.

Anyway, my big problem is not condoms, it's penetration. So far, my medication has helped me and improved my sex life, let's see if I can beat this anxiety for good...

[saferthan]

I think I will give one of these cock rings a try. I can get an erection by myself but when it comes time to doing it with my girl it goes soft. So a solution would be slipping the cock ring on after I get hard and it will stay hard until I take it of? Is that the case with these rings?

[Flavio]

I think I will give one of these cock rings a try. I can get an erection by myself but when it comes time to doing it with my girl it goes soft. So a solution would be slipping the cock ring on after I get hard and it will stay hard until I take it of? Is that the case with these rings?

Cock rings are very effective but a bit uncomfortable (they have to be tight, or they're useless) and you shouldn't wear one for more than 20 minutes.

You should put the ring before the erection and not after. That's the beauty of these toys. They constrict only the veins near the surface of the penis (i.e. the vessels that drain the blood out of your penis when you lose an erection), not the inner arteries that bring the blood into the penis to form an erection.

[saferthan]

Flavio you are so helpful, thanks man. One thing I cannot figure is how do I know what size I need? Do they come in universal sizes or do penis rings have different types of sizes?

[Flavio]

Flavio you are so helpful, thanks man. One thing I cannot figure is how do I know what size I need? Do they come in universal sizes or do penis rings have different types of sizes?

Thanks Saferthan. There are many types of cock rings, I suggest you try a few and see which one do you prefer. An adjustable leather ring is probably the best option.

[Bob_R]

You guys might also consider making an artform out of foreplay. That way, you have plenty of time to overcome any anxiety, and the positive feedback from your lady should be a big help. Also, take your Viagra, etc, a couple of hours beforehand, preferably on an empty stomach.

In the "shameless plug" department" I'm the author of Screams of Pleasure that has recently been posted on this site. It give lots and lots and lots of ideas about setting the stage for great sex and playing for a long time with your lady before you even need to think about getting hard.

Bob